A few people have asked and I’ve decided it could be fun, so here is the first of I don’t know how many blogs relating to the process of planning the wedding!
Setting A Date
When you get engaged, the first thing that everyone asks is “when are you thinking of getting married?” I know this, because I am generally one of the askers. As DG and many other newly engaged men will say “I was more just thinking about the actual proposal and hadn’t really thought much further ahead then that”. For the girls, if they are like me and have a time of year in mind, it will all depend on when they got engaged.
I have always liked autumn. It’s not too hot, not too cold and I absolutely love it when the leaves turn beautiful shades of orange, red and yellow (not that they really do that here in Newcastle). It is also positioned well between DG’s birthday (June), my birthday (September) and Christmas. April has always been my month of choice. It just sounds nice to me. And, as my soon-to-be cousin (who will be my cousin tomorrow) pointed out to me, it means that you have a long weekend every year around your anniversary because of Easter. I hadn’t even thought of that, but it’s smart, right?
Many people have commented that 13 months is a long time to wait to get married. It is a while, I agree, but I want to be able to plan properly and in my own time. I don’t want to lose my crap and need a sedative because I’m stressing out that I don’t have enough time. Also, given I was proposed to in March, neither DG or myself wanted to plan a wedding in a month (plus, I don’t think that’s possible unless you’re ridiculously rich and famous which we are not). Before people think that this is all just about me, I want to make clear that when I say “I”, most of the time I mean “we” because I consult DG on EVERYTHING, even ideas I have floating around in my head because I am very firm that it is OUR wedding, not my wedding, and I want him to be happy with it and have a say.
Then there is the dilemma of choosing a Friday or a Saturday. Friday is becoming increasingly popular because price per head at reception venues drop by at least $10 a head and when you’re inviting around 100 people (but the guest list numbers have changed so much so who really knows), it’s hard to say no to saving $1000. Great! But then there’s the dilemma of work. Are people going to be willing or will they be able to get the day off work to come to the wedding if it’s held on a Friday?
I like the idea of Friday but I also like Saturday as well because you have less chance of interfering with people’s work schedules. The voice of reason came in the form of my amazing fiancé who said that it is ultimately about what we want and that people will try to get there and if they can’t, that’s OK. He also pointed out that we are giving them a year’s notice. Then there’s the fact that we found a date we really like the sound of and it just so happened to be on a Friday.
So, my lovely readers, DG and I will be getting married on Friday 4th April 2014 which turns out to be 4/04/14 and we couldn’t be happier!
How did you set a date for your wedding? Had you always had something in mind? Did you have the Friday/Saturday dilemma?